Originally Posted By: punkin

Personally, I think most men are too narcissistic to care what women think. They don't count.


Hey punkin,

Please don't say most men.

I have read those books "For Women Only by Shaunti Feldhahn. and

For Men Only" as Being pointed out. I have read the for "Women

only about 3 times and early on and I knew alot of it before this

thing hit. But of course MLC is not about what the LBS did or

did not do. That I am sure of now. It took almost a year for me

to recognize this. Those books are good when a marriage is in

trouble and BOTH the H and W want to work on a better marriage.

I highly recommend them for that type of situation. In my case

my W felt those books to be pressure. I do think that those

two books should be standard equipment for EVERY marriage.

It would not have stopped MLC but it could keep a healthy

marriage even better.

I know you know this but since I have read those books, I felt

a need to express myself a little since others read these posts.

Maybe I am venting a little here too because the situation gets

so frustrating and I think if men find their way here to this

site and others, that says more about them then just giving up

when it gets tough.

The good part about being an LBS, is you do get an opportunity

to look at yourself and try to see what could have been improved.

Nobody is perfect and I have my faults to be sure but MLC really

is all bets are off when it comes to the LBS.

Again, Punkin,

Please don't take this the wrong way I just keep thinking of all

the men here that get left behind in this thing and wonder WTH

happened.

Those first days of just plain trauma are just awful for any

of us that go through this. I lurked here for months and months

and when I finally started to participate here is when things

started to turn for my OWN sanity.