I can do this...

[ericmsant2]

Irish,

Happy New Year Irish. May 2011 be a year of tremendous growth and healing for YOU.

I've been reading along for most of your posts and you should be very proud of yourself for the personal progress you have made throughout this difficult journey.

First off….I second Walkings comment up there ^^^^

I want him to be happy - I want him to be OK.

WHY Irish does it still seem like you are more concerned with HIS happiness OVER YOURS? What does this say to YOU?

Kind of created a new environment for S and me.

Good for YOU!

H goes silent. I said "yes, I know here she goes being the b**ch again - then I said - you know what, no I am not a b**ch. I am here everyday for S and I'm keeping this home going.

1) Stop mind reading….you have no idea what your H was thinking.
2) YOU do not need to TELL him you are not a b**ch. Actions speak louder than words. In addition, Irish standing up for WHAT YOU WANT in YOUR life is not being a b**ch it is being a healthy individual with healthy boundaries.
3) “the I am here everyday” statement was not needed IMO. Are you still looking for HIS approval? Are you still hoping he is going to say that he has seen you change? Stop it! Live and do for YOU Irish and only YOU and YOUR son.

"oh no now he'll never come back"

At some point in the future Irish….your mind will start to rephrase this to….”do I want his a** back.

Get back on the path, IB. Get out of his head.

Irish, read this ^^^^ what B wrote…over and over again.

Do for YOU IRISH….

DO for YOUR Son Irish

Do what IRISH wants

Please DO NOT BE AFRAID to stand up for yourself!

DO NOT BE AFRAID of completely dropping the rope!

You can do this….IRISH….it really is inside of YOU.

You can read every book known to man about relationship, about MLC, about affairs…

The ONLY thing that matters thought is HOW and WHAT YOU WANT IN YOUR LIFE!

God Bless,
Eric