Gabbys mom , you did make me laugh, and yes, they go for someone "less than", I believe--someone who will make them feel like they walk on water instead of a mutual relationship. KML--I'm sorry that your "ex" didn't embrace who you are. I think that's common.
OK. Confession. I broke my resolution on 1/2.
My sons are 10 and 11. Against my wishes, XH bought them Halo, rated "M" for Christmas. They are also constantly watching R rated movies with him. Yesterday I went to see The Fighter and felt like I was going to throw up because he had taken my sons to that movie. It might be OK for a 16 year old, but not a 10 and 11 year old. So, I texted him that I felt like throwing up, because I did. I had to leave the movie because I was so sick that my kids are surrounded by things that are inappropriate for them. I told him that he has stolen my children's innocence. That he is a 14 year old in a Brooks Brother's suit. I used some explicitives as well.
He has had OW sleeping over there since the first day they met her. He said that he consulted with "professionals" about introducing her to them. I'm sure that no "professional" would say that its a good plan to introduce your kids to your girlfriend on the first day of school, with a trip to an amusement park, followed by OW spending the night at your house, and having breakfast with her on the 2nd day of school. They are watching horror movies, R rated movies, and eating junk food over there every day. In between, they go to amusement parks. I texted him that he is a teenager -- a 14 year old in a Brooks Brother's suit. I used some explicitives as well.
This morning he sent me an e-mail saying that I have anger management issues, and I should call him to discuss these things. I don't have anger management issues--I'm very angry at him, but I am a very calm and rational person. I've tried talking to him about these things and it is a complete waste of my time and energy--he only engages me to make himself believe we are "co-parenting" and then he goes and does exactly what he wants. He told the boys that he wasn't going to buy them any video games without my consent--and then he goes and does it anyway. Honestly, he is like a teenage babysitter when they are with him.
I am trying to figure out how to set a good moral example for my sons without being the heavy. It is so hard. I really do want to throw up when I think of the example he has set for them. Lying, cheating, doing whatever feels good, and having "fun" are what life is all about. UGH!!!!!!
