Hopeless29, Sorry it has been so long! H and I share a computer and I was off work for the week. Anyways, my holidays was ok. H came to our christmas but I was not invited to his family's, which gave me mixed feelings. The kids had a great time and I know that's what is important but I can't help but feel disappointed...I was so hoping that he'd have some kind of revalation at Christmas. And since then I've hardly spoken to him. I just feel completely defeated by everything and like my will to fight is fading.