why doesn't your wife speak up or take initiative when things involve her?
So why doesn't your wife speak her wishes? and what can you do to help her begin to?
I believe she has made some improvement over the past year with this, but it still is a consistent pattern for her. I don't know what role I may have played with it in the past, though I believe it is her issue. I'm trying not to accept her blame for failure to speak-up. I do need to remind myself to be thoughtful of her, and not focus on only my needs. I also try to hang in there with her when she finally states her needs in a gruff way.
I think this plays into her job-hunting paralysis too. She needs to let others know she is looking for work, but she gets stuck in her feelings. She was sharing this with me yesterday. I told her that action was more important than being hopeful, as she said she felt hopeless. It was the most helpful thing I could think of to say.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
