Beatrice, thanks....I am really interested in your thoughts because I can see similarities in our H's.
Perhaps I gave him power by making the call but I was also clear that I was calling to get the settlement underway in the calmest and most rational manner.
I am not high maintenance but as you suggest, a normal human being with normal needs. What I ask from him are common courtesies. He can't/won't/doesn't want to accommodate me in this way so I intend to move along with the focus on me in 2011. This is my year to finally make me the priority and especially my health. I plan to lose weight, increase my fitness, enjoy my new job, finish my study and make plans for travel for 2012. However, I know that I need this settlement to remove this weight and allow me to plan a future out of limbo.
I agree, H is far from cooked and I honestly couldn't be bothered dealing with him except to serve my own purpose of getting finances sorted.
I have given way to much time and energy to H. I love H but I don't really like him.
