Rightly or wrongly I called h today and asked him if we could just move on. To begin he said yes and answered everything I said with yes or no. As the conversation moved on he seemed to warm slightly.
He basically told me it was too complicated with me because I had expectations that he couldn't fulfil (my interpretation) so he thought it was easier to stay away. (I did want to say, "Yes my expectations are just common manners" but I declined.)
I got the impression that he still enjoyed my company but thought I was too high maintenance.
They say feedback is a wonderful gift!!!!
His feedback has given me a way forward........have no expectations, but I also think I'm at the stage where I need to continue working on myself and forget about him except to organise the settlement.
I specifically called him to get the settlement and divorce on the road. I was very clear when I said I wanted to get the settlement underway and over with.
Along the way H has always said we will get along better when settled and divorced and I have always said this wouldn't be the case because I would have no contact with him except in relation to the children. Today I told him that I had disagreed with this notion but now I can see he is right because this will no longer be hanging over our heads and influencing our thoughts and feelings.
I'm over worrying if this was the right course of action but I am interested to see what others think.
