LJ you are very welcome just knowing it helped is more then thanks enough for me.
I know detachment is so very hard. It does get easier with practice. to make a principal yours you just have to work at it every day.

thanks Chelsea and Patience for keeping this thread around. I actually wanted to delete it at one point because of so much personal stuff that went into it after the detachment posts. after reading that its still helping I am glad I didnt.

I put an update on my last post at the top of this page just for those who are curious how my story ends... or begins

Sue