It's been a while since I've posted, but I still check in now and again to keep myself on the right path....
anyway, as I was reading your thread a question struck me and I was wondering if you know the answer...
why doesn't your wife speak up or take initiative when things involve her?
I know what my answer to that was and I still struggle every now and again, but it's something I'm working on. So I'm not baiting or anything, honest. What is driving your wife's behavior..... the left-overs in the fridge she wanted, but didn't mention, the restraunt, and I'm sure there's more....they're all stemming from the same place.
I mean in my house if I spoke up and said "I'll take the leftovers for lunch tomorrow" I'd wake up and H would have taken them for his lunch because he didn't remember or didn't focus long enough to hear what I said. Before, I just stopped speaking up and took my chances so to speak.
Now, we have sharpies and sticky notes near the fridge, if the kids or I are claiming the leftovers for our lunches, we actually claim them with our name on them. Problem solved. no fights, no assumptions, no resentment, and H doesn't have to listen or remember- it's a win win.
So why doesn't your wife speak her wishes? and what can you do to help her begin to?
