Hi Bab, welcome to DB. Seems like your short M hasn't been the best for your W. Was she all for getting M when you did?
You've got a good list started of things you're working on. Another thing is to cut back on the IM/txt/general communication with her. Go dim. Let her miss you.
There'll be more folks along that type a whole lot more than I do.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.