DB Help and Support Needed... badly

[grebjack]

Doesn't it drive you crazy to think that once you told her YOU wanted the divorce and now you so don't? I find this a bit reassuring. Once upon a time we stood before a crowd of our friends and family and said we were committed to taking care of each other forever. Now we don't feel that way. Three years ago, I was so frustrated by my husband's refusal to talk to me (talk was the only way I knew to attack our problems - wish I'd learned the danger of that sooner) that _I_ said "Fine, I give up, I want a divorce," and now I still feel like giving up a lot of the time, but I certainly don't want the divorce. Six months ago my husband told me he's had enough and wants a divorce. Feelings change. You no longer want a divorce. Maybe your wife will get to that place, too. I think the key is to STOP doing the things that make her feel hopeless, even if you don't know what to do to make her feel hopeful. Best wishes.