Is it really never too late?

[grebjack]

After 2.5 years of separation, my husband finally told me in June that he wanted to move on with his life. Because I hadn't given up on us, I had not stopped trying to make him talk until he simply had no investment anymore and I finally learned that all the talking was probably a big part of the problem. I did Mort Fertel's program before I found Michele's, and one piece of that was regular contact and gift giving, but now my husband hasn't agreed to see me since October (when we had dinner together a couple times that were really delightful) and he's asked me to lay off on stopping by his place to drop off gifts of food (he's a diabetic who WAS having a hard time keeping up with the necessary cooking). I feel like he's weaning me off of him. And my telephone coach says that maybe now the best I can do is low-pressure but pleasant phone converstaions. I enjoy those conversations immensely, but I worry that it's just a matter of time before he asks me to quit that, or just stops taking my calls. I know he's seeing a counselor to help him get over his marriage and move on, and I'm sure he has a lot more contact with that counselor (and I suspect with new dating partners) than he has with me. What chance do I have really? It's hard to keep up hope.