Wonderful title Seeking. Thinking it's time to change my thread theme, as well.
ME: 54 Him: 51 M: 20 years T: 21 years OW/New wife: 36 Sons & Daughters: 7 (ages 24-36) Bomb: March 4, 2010 He Filed: April 28, 2010 I Contested: May 1, 2010 Standing Down: 11/24/10 Divorced : 05/04/2011
Hi SA - love your new tread title....the "Just is" part is very important IMO....I have been using the "that's the way it is" lately instead of fighting it or being upset about something H does....Just is...shows acceptance and peace....we have come a long way SA
Happy New Year
M53 H54 D17 M33Y T38Y Bomb OW 09/09 OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10 WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10 Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO
After 15 months of separation my H sent me an email today telling me that I will probably be served the D papers this week.
H is signing over the house and property to me and all the contents except his guns and ham radios. He said I would be getting 37% of his retirement pension.
He said if I disagreed with anything then we could discuss it. Wonder what he'd say if I told him I disagreed with the divorce?
I feel so helpless because there's nothing I can do to stop it.
H still wants to use just one lawyer. I just feel like I'm between a rock and a hard place. If I put up any kind of fuss H will then say to put the house on the market. He can be very vindictive.
When the D papers come is there anyway to make sure I'm being dealt squarely with without H knowing? If there were obvious flaws that could hurt me in the long run I would definitely stand up for myself. There is no reason to make this contentious if H is being more than fair.
You think you are prepared for this and you find out all over again how much it hurts.
