Marcusko, My wife was very loving and family oriented for 1 st 20 yrs of marriage. Here is some approx timeline things: Career woman early 20's. After 2nd child went part time. resumed career partime - full time mid 30's. last kid at 32. started going out more around 36-37. career resumed moved up and a couple promotions. working out, plastice surgery, dressing younger late 30's promoted to Asst CEO at 43 bomb drop March 2010 the self centeredness started a while back, but for a time it actaully enhanced our marriage or I was totally blind but: