Good for you for feeling this is your year. Make it so.
You and I have discussed what Walking wrote many times. And it is time for you to stop protecting your son and your h.
My son was just about your son's age when all this started. It's a tough age without any of this;
And I felt as you did, I wanted to do whatever I could to make son happy and ok.
But I realized that the very best thing I could do is to get out of the way of that relationship. I always made sure that I never got in the way of it. I never said a bad word about his father. Not one.Ever.
The rest, well, that is for them to forge That's not to say if your so comes to you upset or confused, you cant listen lovingly, and hold him, if need be. But. you really need to let them figure it out.
He is looking to you to see how to do this. If you are ok, then he will be too. You are his touchstone, his beacon on how to navigate through lives hurdles.
Show him how to do it from a place of strength and honor.
As far as what is justifiable anger or judgemental - I think you feel what you feel. It doesnt really matter which it is, it matters what you do with the feeling,
You need to stop worrying about whether or not you or your son are having the right feelings. Just deal with them as best you can, and continue moving forward;
IB, trust your son. Trust that he has learned from you, Trust that he can figure this out. His relationship with his father is going to be ongoing - good at times, terrible at others.And that's ok.
Listen, this is a tough thing for your son. And our instinct as a mother is to want to make it all better. But, in the end, the very best thing you give your son is power over his own life.
I'd like to see you work on what makes you happy, sweetie. You deserve some me time, too.
