Just like most of you...

[sarahani]

Thank you Sandy and Virginia! I think I might have showed some ‘controlling” on my part but there is just so much more to the story and I have so much anger. I felt like it was time I took a stand since I was being used in a sort of way. I did take “our” kids to visit him and they did get to spend time with their father almost on a weekly basis but I was giving up so much for his decisions. I felt like I shouldn’t have to give up time with our kids since before he walked out on us he knew the consequences of his actions. I don’t want to and won’t keep the kids away from him as long as he respects me and doesn’t have the OW around them. We are still considered married and it wouldn’t be morally right for him to bring her around them. He is the one that decided to hold off on the D since he has some benefits by still being married to me so until we are not officially divorced I have the right to say who our children are around.

The reason I didn’t want him to move out of his mom’s house was because I knew he was doing it to be closer to OW and also a little bit of me was still in denial of our marriage being broken. I know sounds weird but when he left we had to move out from our house and move in with my parents. He left us no car, no money, and no roof over our heads. I think if you have money to rent a house why couldn’t you secure that for us?

I have been doing GAL and I try to be nice to him but it is so difficult when I feel like he hates me. Please tell me what route I should take, should I just be nice to him or do I totally ignore him? I don’t ever make the first call anymore, no more R talks, and no more talks about OW or threats.