The other thing that confused me about my H/XH's problem with my work schedule after we married is that I was already working in that career when he met me. He knew how much I had to work to keep up. We talked about my work schedule early on and I told H at that time that I was concerned that my work would interfere with our R and didn't know if he understood that. He reassured me that he had lots of friends and interests and could keep himself entertained. He was actually proud of my accomplishments and what I did for a living.................I just think he had no clue what that life is like. Wish he would have told me that it was making him feel like leaving.......He later told me that he didn't want to give me an ultimatum. Maybe he was afraid that I would choose work instead of him............
