Thanks for that perspective. You are right about me needing to step back - I keep trying to protect S - and maybe sometimes still H. I think I get frustrated because I feel like I have to deal with the aftermath of their interactions and I keep wanting to "fix" things for my S. I want him to be happy - I want him to be OK.
I wonder sometimes how to know what is "justifiable" anger versus being judgmental. Has anyone else struggled with this?
M-48/XH-48 M=25/T=28 years Ds-24,22/S-18 D - 3/11 A Day at a Time