Maybe DBMod could address that better than I can. I have read that article several times before, and frankly I can't see myself doing all the things "David" did in his stitch.

I have read DBMod explaining how we need to do what brings love into the R. But, with "my" personality type...and if I was his WAW, I probably would have ate David for my lunch. frown But, that's just me and how I am. I really would like to see that article explained from the "doormat" POV. I'm not being sarcastic and I hope my post won't get deleted, but maybe DBMod will see your question and help clarify for us, okay?

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!