I'm sorry you find yourself here. This is a very difficult journey you are on - but if you use it for your personal growth it may be one of the most important things that ever happens in your life.
Sarahini - Sandi just pointed out to you that some of your behavior seems to be pretty controlling. That stood out strongly to me too.
The other thing that stands out in your posts is how you consistently refer to "my" children. How do you think that makes your H feel? You share those children. Don’t you think they should be “our” children?
It is alarming that you are threatening to keep the children away from their father. The issues that you are having in your marriage are between you and your husband and you both have an obligation to ensure there is as limited impact on the children as possible. That means they should maintain a close relationship with both of you and you both need to cooperate to achieve that.
Keep reading DB/DR and really try to understand that your best option for saving your marriage is to be the best , healthiest woman you can be. That means you put the emotional needs of your children before your own anger, it means you GAL – go out , have fun, look after yourself – and it means you treat your H with respect. You don’t have to like what he’s doing or how he’s behaving, but you need to respect that he’s an individual and he has the right to make decisions about his life.
Good luck. Take care.
Blessings. V
V
Never make someone a priority, who makes you an option.
