I think Mila hit the nail on the head about H's actions.
I understand how you kept the joint account as a thread between you and H. I don't remember you writing about H doing funny things with your joint checking account. If that's the case then it sounds as though he has been pretty trustworthy on that end. That's the way it was with XH and me. Even though he had "brain freezes" from time to time, I don't think he intentionally did things to hurt me. It's just always annoying to be surprised when you find things H has done that they didn't warn you about. It always took me awhile to reset my attitude after those surprises.
Antonia's reminder about hope is a good one.
Here's wishing you peace and prosperity in 2011. We don't know what lies before us, but we have within us the strength and the wisdom to determine our own destinies.
