I have six 4th and 5th grade boys in the basement tonight. They have vowed to stay awake until midnight or later. One of the friend's parents came to the slumber party for a few hours--we had a glass of wine (or two) and watched a pretty intense Nerf gun fight. Really, things are good.

What will be good about 2011? It will be good to do the things that I want to do--what feels right in my heart. My XH would NEVER have done a New Year's Eve slumber party--too loud, too messy, too inconvenient, but my kids are having a good time. It will be a nice memory for them in what has otherwise been a hard year.

In 2011, I will create nice memories while enjoying the moment.
I will use good boundaries to keep OUT XH and his insanity. Minimal contact.
I will be the best mom I can be--that's my primary duty right now.
And, of course, I will get in shape and eat better (nothing new there!)
I will have a few more dates -- because I can, and there are nice men out there.
I will read some good books,
and I will take the boys to Italy.

I will try not to think of more ways to describe OW. But they are SOOOOOOO good--she looks like a cross between a porn star and someone's spinster aunt. She looks like someone you'd see at an amusement park eating a corn dog. She looks like a cartoon version of someone freakish and grotesque--my 10 year old says she has "stage 4 breasts". She is total white trash, and my XH is a hugs snob, so its pretty shocking to see. And he keeps trying to tell me how sad he is about Christmas and how hard its been!!!

OK...I guess I've broken the resolution, but its not 2011 yet. In 2011, 2 hours from now, I won't waste a minute thinking of those things!!! 2011 won't be about XH and OW, but about MY world. It will be about me and my kids and my family and my friends. I think it will be a good year!