I'm sorry rys. It certainly isn't what it should be.
I think you are not going to be able to control whether this ow is around your son or not. I think your best bet if you want him back is to become the more attractive option. And if you are truly done, your best bet is to make life easier for your son.
What will you do tonight?
sg Love is PATIENT, love is KIND, LOVE never fails / DB since 2001