Hey Pickle

Been catching up on you.

I am a man whose W is also MLC.

Only you can say if she is or not. I am sure you read the resources but you are in for a long haul if it is so.

Nothing you do will move her to back to your M.

You just need to come to grips with that.

My thread is in MLC if you are interested in reading.

It's long.

And so is this process.

To what?

Maybe your M reconciling.

Maybe not.

I can only tell you that this day to day sweating it out will take a LOT out of you.

YOU must decide what you want to do. Regardless of the outcome.

This is not just MLC, but for anyone.

Decide what what you will be and who you will be.

And do it.

Your W is going to act crazy some days and move toward you other days.

You cannot ride that ride with her.

She has to come to her own understanding. And...

You must let her.

It is NYE tonight. A time make different choices for you and your family.

Will you kepp riding the the change of winds? The change of the tides?

Things you do not have control of?

You must learn patience if you want this. You must learn compassion if you want this.

From enduring these hardships you learn wisdom of what life means to you.

What love means to you.

And most importantly who you are.

Your actions speak to that. Not words to anyone, especially your wife.

She has not ears to hear right now.

You want to honor your W like you vowed? Listen to her.

She is in pain and alone and this OM is only to fill that void.

You won't be that man again I can tell you.

You don't want to be that man.

Until she looks within and sees that she is part of the problem.

BUT

You are too. So get to working on that which you control.

YOU.

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am