STBXH wants to show kids what a "real family is"

[MeMyselfandI]

Just updating as it has been a good day so far. I had decided that I would not make contact today at all. Called my S around lunch today and he was all happy about the fort he had made at Daddy's place. Kept tyring to explain it to me. You have to keep in mind that I have never been in STBXH's house and I have remained in family house, mostly b/c when it came time to settle, he couldn't afford to keep the house and I could. Long story ... but here I am stuck with a house I didn't really want but it's best for the kids for now. Anyway, he kept saying, "you know if you look through the big window at Daddy's house, the stools." I tried to explain to him that I had never looked through the windows and didn't know that he was talking about but was very excited about his fort as he described it to me.

Anyway, D10 calls me just before the hockey game is about to start and I missed call. Called her back but by that time, they had company to watch the game so she was short but said she just wanted to say hi. I returned and told her to enjoy the game.

A little while later, my phone rings and it's S asking what his IPOD password is. I explain that I don't really know but if he puts Daddy on the phone, I can talk to him about it. Tell STBXH that I don't know what the password is but if he sends request to reset it, I will forward on the email (email address registered under happens to be our old family account that only I have access to now).

Back and forth a couple of times, few phone calls from S and turns out he needs to know my Visa code to be able to reset password. Being only 9 ... I ask him to put Dad on the phone. Explain to Dad that I don't have Visa handy, I'm not at home but will see if I can find it and text. He says, not to worry, he will just put in his visa number.

Long story short, Visa that S was regitered under was my old Visa (which STBXH had cancelled on me when we were going through proceedings as it was a joint account). Anyway, as I'm sending
STBXH a text to explain, he sends one saying:

STBXH: tried to put mine in but can't type the number 5, his screen is [censored]

Same time, my text goes out:

ME: Just found my code, wouldn't be good anyway. Twas the visa that was cancelled on me LOL, maybe start from scratch.

STBXH: Ya, sorry bout cancelling the visa. Was dumb.

ME: No worries, can understand at the time how you did. I would'a never jeapordized but looking back, we were both pretty vulnerable and had to do what we had to do.

Felt very good to let go of that anger!