I'm new to board and also in piecing with H. I made/make mistakes too. I cut out all alcohol during my 180. FYI...
My following thoughts are based on the premise that our WAS are operating subconsciously and even unconsciously during the fog.
I had a thought about how much you are doing and how long it seems (to you)to be taking your W to turn around. Maybe she is taking it slow because she likes how you are paying attention and being so giving. Maybe she is afraid you will stop. Not that she is doing it on purpose, don't think that.
It took me 8 weeks to get my H from OW. I wondered why he just didn't drop her. After all, I was working my butt off! <grin> I think deep down inside he liked it that I was pursuing him, that was my 180. If he dropped her, I'd stop my pursuit of him.
As a W you sound like you are doing all the right things. Like how you are empathic to her feelings & fantasy RE: OM. It is such a delusional state they get into! As OM fades, she'll realize it. From what I can see by the posts here, she's in. My bet is that unconsciously she is relishing your attention. My bet is on you getting this back....just a gut feeling. Hang in there, seems DB is working for you.
I'm waiting for my DR book to arrive. In the meantime I read as much here as I can to get guidance. You're all great!
MZ ____________________ M 52 H 55 S19 S16 M 21 T 24 Friends 29 A Suspected a last Christmas, confronted H 4/24/10 A ended June 2010.
M 55 H 58 M 24 T 29 S 22,21, 19 Bomb 4/10 It (A) really isn't about you 11/2013 We all have work to do
The truth will set you free, but it will almost kill you first.
