Am I piecing? Just can't tell 2...

[Sad_but_happy]

(((Sandi)))

All I can say is WOW!!! Thanks so much for taking the time to disect my statements. That took time and caring and I really appreciate it. You're amazing!!!

You are correct on every point!!!

Same to you Harrier! I really appreciate you taking the time to help me with my sitch.


I assure you that I do not act at home the way I vent here! This forum is great because I can release all the anxiety I feel without taking it out on W. I assure you that at home I am happy, helpful, and non combative.

I really feel the distance starting to set in with OM and W. She is more upbeat, not sad, and never moping or angry. Starting to feel more settled in. I think she is level headed about whats right. This shows how unselfish she really is. Not easy to give up your perceeved "sole-mate". Especially when in the fog. That shows unbelieveable strength... Even if it is a fantasy...

Last night we had wine by the fire and watched TV. We were sitting close though I resisted the urge to put my arm around her and pull hr closer. If she wants to be closer I will let her initiate it. We went to bed and I continued to read "Surrender to Marriage" to us. Keep in mind that this is a book that she got from the Library on her own. Last nights chapter was a good one. It focused on the fact that that peoples idea of the "honeymoon stage" in marriage is a**backwards (exact words). It's not in the first few years or DECADES of a relationship, but after the kids are grown and you look at them and your grandchildren with pride knowing that you made it through together and can now reep the rewards of a job well done. Can you really enjoy that moment if you are divorced??? Will you ever be able to enjoy it? NO!!!

Marriage is SUPPOSED to be difficult!!! We forget that!!! The old saying, "nothing worth doing is easy", certainly applies.

Anyway, after the chapter my W made the comment that we need to buy this book and read it over and over!!! Of course I agreed!

I did spoon her falling to sleep and she did back into me. So I can only assume she was OK with it.