Hi NAS. I am not sure of your entire story, but please listen to your fellow DBer's. You have to step back from your wife... yes, you must. This is not for her sake, but YOURS. SHe cannot make you happy, you cannot make her happy, nor should you expect it. I think that is where we all go wrong. I know it did for me. You are hurting and seeing the bleakness, because you may be bringing it on yourself through what you term as "annoying" behavior.
I was a complete mess when my H left over year ago. I begged, I cried, I pleaded, I spoke out in anger....But this got ME nowhere. I was out of control - seeing a side of me that I had never faced. Scared of being alone and without that man that I loved. I went dark and detached. It was the BEST medicine for me. I took care of me, did special things for myself. It was only when I was prepared for the eventually reality of a D, that my H came to me and asked if was too late for us.
Nas please listen, YOU MUST take of YOU FIRST. You are hurting. You must begin to heal from all of this before there is even a slight microscope of a chance. DR says to take a step back and begin to look at yourself. And NAS, anything is possible....not guaranteed, but possible.
You can do this my friend. What things to you like to go? Is there something you have wanted to do that you have done/tried before?
OLD THREAD-http://tinyurl.com/y98nuty Me 44 H 51 T 15 yrs M 9+ yrs No Kids "You may be deceived if you trust too much, but you will live in torment unless you trust enough."
