Hey Kat, thanks for stopping by!! Happy New Year's for you too!!
And Golfgirl! I have followed your thread--you are doing a fantastic job and I love love love how you've gotten the "upper hand" in your D. At least mentally you seem to have it all over your ex.lol. Any help would be SOOO appreciated!!
I hope to get there too--I have had some pretty down moments (the holidays--you have to give yourself some slack for that!)
We have a lot of complicated "financial stuff" and I am overwhelmed. Didn't help that STBEX made me a "deal" that sounded good at first, but...I did take it to a 3rd party financial guy in town who is also a L and he said I'd do better in court. Much better most likely.
So my father-in-law has stepped in and said "write down what you want". Thing is, I know what my L says I'll get--do you believe these people? My H's L tells HIM what I'll get and they are MILES from each other.
Small recap--been married almost 16 years (15 when he filed), have one S15, been a SAHM with just part-time jobs for all this time, have a 4 year degree but worked for family after college and never used it--thinking about going back to school for nursing...
I have a party that I'm going to tonight with my friends. I haven't had a BIT of trouble getting a life--my H kept me tethered to his side for the past 6 years. I tell everyone I'm bursting out of my skin to talk to OTHER PEOPLE besides my negative, angry, depressed H. Not a problem!!lol.
Only thing is, he gets abusive (not exactly new--just--right now it escalates) and so I have to weigh if it's worth it. I have called the police 2 x this year and basically--nothing can be done unless he beats me or something. ugh.
So...here we are...he filed Aug 9 and it is Jan and we still live together.lol. It's not all bad--I make him cook and clean and force him to play games with my son and I(I am having a ball playing board games--Apples to Apples, Mad Gab, Shut the Box, Rage).lol. I started going out with my girlfriends for "game night" and I'm hooked!!
So, yeah--did you get what your L said you would? I would go for slightly less even, as she paints a pretty rosy picture...
