The wisdom that comes with the passage of time is only realized by those that can look back at that time which has passed.
You can know that in time things will change or get better but it is not until that time has passed that you actually possess the benefit of its passage.
I know I am glad I took the time to arrive at the place where I was ready to move "forward" with my life. Prior to that decision I often felt like my life was put on hold by my W and I resented her for that......
Now looking back, I am happy that my life was on hold or as I like to refer to it now.....a personal growth period.
Most people cannot acheive that level of growth while in a relationship and the time to do this truly is a "gift" from our spouses.
I know you have done that hard work and have grown and changed as person. Feels good......doesn't it???
Originally Posted By: Truegritter
Live my life and look forward and not behind me where she still walks her path.
If she catches up?
Well then. I'll look at her for who she has become not for who she was or what our M was.
I am glad you are open to the possibility of your W "catching up".....
so many feel that a decision to move forward or on means that you could never be with your spouse again.....
The wonderful thing about allowing yourself the time to arrive where you are today is that you realize that ANYTHING is possible in the FUTURE.....
and that is what makes it FULL OF HOPE !!!!!
Peace and Happiness Brother
Cheers
~C
Formerly "missherlove"
Me49 XW49 M17 T19 S16 D20
Expose yourself to your deepest fear; after that, fear has no power, and the fear of freedom shrinks and vanishes. You are free.
