I visited my Dad this afternoon just in time to hear the cancer doctor tell him they were not going to do chemo as it would do him more harm than good at this stage. I hugged Dad and the tears flowed, mine not his. He told me that he was going to keep on fighting and I told him that love is a powerful medicine and he's got lots of that! This evening I dropped the kids at wife's, went out for dinner and drove down to see Dad again. I just thought that the news he got today was hard and I didn't want him lying there all alone. We talked for an hour about death, God, life etc. He says all he wants is to go to one more ballgame and sing one more solo. I told him to get his strength up and, God willing, he might get to do those things. He told me that he's always tried to be a good person, to do what is right but hasn't always done so. I told him that he taught me to do what was right even when it wasn't easy. It was a nice time together and I felt better knowing that he's thinking through this latest news and working at coming to terms with it. I promised him I'd read the ball scores to him each night when he was gone! We both laughed.
More hugs ... ((((((Wii))))))) ... so sorry to hear your dad won't be able to get chemo. But, as you said to him .... love is the greatest healer, and he has lots of that. (Or words to that effect.) And many are praying for him, and for you and your family.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Wii, I lost both of my parents too young. My father had a sudden heart attack and died at 50. Mom was diagnosed with inoperable lung cancer at 54; she died at 56. Loosing a parent is heart-wrenching; but I am glad that you and your dad have the opportunity to spend this time together - he will never be gone from your heart, and you both have time to say what you want to say to each other.
So sorry to hear about your dad. Like DF, my parents have been gone a long time. My dad died when I was 23 and my mom died when I was 28. It's good you've had him so long.
Happy New Year.
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Today the Cancer doctor told us, not Dad, he gives Dad three months tops and Dad will not be coming home. He said that confusion will start to set in and when that happens they will cut off his food supply because at that point all they'd be doing is feeding the cancer. Happy New Year! On the upside, when I saw Dad today and asked how things were going he said "they called this morning to see if I would consider becoming the next Governor General of Canada but I decided I didn't need the hassle." He's still the clown. CTH, you are certainly right, I've had almost 53 good years with my Dad and that's a real blessing considering others have had so much less with their parents.
Been following your saga and wanted to send my warm wishes and also my deepest condolences concerning your father.
I come from a short lived family, my father at 74 is now the oldest on his side of the family after all the others passed away before reaching 65. Cherish him and enjoy whatever time allows.
I've seen loved ones go through sickness and deep mental degradation and it was the beautiful times that we'd had previously as a family that stick brightly in my mind, not the final condition of the mortal flesh. Just remember that we're all on the same race, some of us just reach the finish line faster than others.
