I'm sorry that I can't remember, but did you stop checking emails, etc., to see if the A had ended?

It sounds like your W went through depression when she wasn't interested in previous things (homemaking, etc.).

If the A has stopped, she may be slowly coming around. If it has stopped and she is still in the grieving process, then her moods will continue to swing back & forth.

You are doing what not many men are not willing to do, and that is to wait it out until the A ends. That is what MWD teaches.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!