d1, I am sorry that after one year you gave up on your M. IMO, unless the WAS is driving the D wagon and you have to react to protect yourself - there are far too many people that give up too quickly. It's too easy in this world to try a quick fix and say 'oh well, I did what I could.' It takes longer to fix a M than it did for it to go bad.
Had I listened to the many people that told me I had tried long enough and I should file and move on I would be D now. Instead, my H is slowly making his way back to the life we had created, and the life I kept moving forward while he was....
Sorry for the hijack.
JR, you're getting great advice from Michelle. Go slow. How do you eat and elephant? one piece at a time.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.