I filed before I found this site, but she was planning to already. I filed mainly because she made no effort, was disrespecting me by being involved with other men, and also because it AGGRIVATED me (as petty as it may seem) that she would file divorce on me when she was the one who wronged me. Our first hearing next month... just recieved a letter indicating W is playing the "poor me" card and asking for court intervention because she is struggling financially to provide a household for our children. Just a complete joke!