Got this list from Flowmom. I think it's pretty good from a woman's POV.
Attractive, in no particular order: •a great smile •healthy habits •being truly *in* his and aware of his body •taking pride in his work and how he does it, both paid and otherwise •having passion(s) outside of relationships and paid work, and making time for them •maintaining strong friendships and being interested in other people •being able to truly relax •being a fun, connected dad •aware of own emotional needs •knowing what he wants and taking risks to pursue that •being able to poke fun at himself and not take himself too seriously, humour •casually flirtatious •balanced ego - projects awareness of strengths and faults •mixed signals about availability •unpredictable in courtship rituals
Unattractive: •workaholic •narcissistic (preoccupied with self) •no interests •out of touch with body/chronically stressed •always "plugged in" (computer/phone/tv/blackberry/iphone/cell/video game, etc. •"walking wounded" - obviously emotionally damaged, but not dealing with it •uninspired parent •boasting, false confidence, fake PMA •disrespect/contempt towards women including mother/wife/ex, etc. •scripted/planned flirtation/humour •inflated ego •neon sign flashing "I'm available"And this one from RobX:
Quote: The confidence to move on with your life and make decisions and be assertive and stop being approval seeking and being emotional, take the lead role in your life, determine where it's going, don't let someone determine this for you.
She let you go, great! Follow that instead of pursuing her.
You have been given notice.
Move on, in the opposite direction, holding on to her is going to insure that you don't get her.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
