M: 42 - W: 41 - M: 18 - T: 23 - D:16 S:14 EA - July 2010 NC w/EA - Nov 2010 Piecing - Jan 2011 I ask for div - Jan 2012 Div papers filed - Mar 2012 I move out - July 2012 Divorce final - Nov 7, 2012
So she then says, i know you are not going to like this and it will be hard to take, but my pastor has been talking about forgiveness, and i have asked God to forgive me for marrying you.
"I agree. I have done some thinking too and you're right, you've never been the wife I've wanted or needed. And I don't know if I'll ever be able to forgive myself for not seeing this."
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every interaction with W now while exchanging the baby, she asks where i am going. I dropped him off on Thanksgiving morning. She said, i dont know why you are trying to get rid of him so early. You know we dont have dinner until 4.
"I am sorry you feel that I am trying to get rid of him. I brought him here so you can spend some quality time together."
"Where are you going?"
"Unless you need help with anything related to our son, I really don't have time to chat."
What password are you refering to?
Password to my bank account
M - 42 W - 41 Married 9 years July 24, 2010 WAW moved out 8-9-10 2nd Marriage for Both S 2 SS 13 from W first Marriage
i guess you are right, thats what love does sometimes. Please offer some suggestions on how to make myself attractive again. She called today and said i have not changed, i am still talking the way i did, funny thing i was just listening the entire time. She said i wasnt a good father, but in the same breath was fine with me asking for extra time. I said if i am doing something wrong as a father, please let me know what as i always ask you for advice, she didnt say anything then.
M - 42 W - 41 Married 9 years July 24, 2010 WAW moved out 8-9-10 2nd Marriage for Both S 2 SS 13 from W first Marriage
oh forgot to add, that she says she cant do the things i do with our son because she has no money. I dont understand that, she lives with her parents and works.....
M - 42 W - 41 Married 9 years July 24, 2010 WAW moved out 8-9-10 2nd Marriage for Both S 2 SS 13 from W first Marriage
W shows up again yesterday for S speech therapy unannounced. She sat very close to me. S had a little fever, and before she left i asked if she wanted to pray for S. She said yes, we both kneeled down and held hands and prayed over S. Positive from my point of view, but again probably reading into it too much.
M - 42 W - 41 Married 9 years July 24, 2010 WAW moved out 8-9-10 2nd Marriage for Both S 2 SS 13 from W first Marriage
thanks Jack, the speech therapist even commented this week that she felt something was there the way she was acting around me that day. Yesterday was difficult as i picked up my S. He started kicking and screaming, didnt really know who he wanted to be with. I finally got him in the car, and he settled down and we had a good evening. On the way home, i called the W and she agreed it was bad and she had no solution. I said i need more time with him. I assume you will not go for 50/50 split. She said maybe when he is 4 but not at this age. Well after talking to a few friends in the situation both M and F, as long as i am not a proven bad parent, i would have most likely got that from the judge had i let it go to court. So i am going to a very aggressive female lawyer on Monday to move forward as well as to see what my options are for finances which she isnt helping with very much. I have decided to move forward, a separation agreement doesnt necessarily mean divorce, as i know from the last time i successfully DB'd. as far as everything else with dropping the rope, i havent seen too much more positive response. what shall i move on to next?
M - 42 W - 41 Married 9 years July 24, 2010 WAW moved out 8-9-10 2nd Marriage for Both S 2 SS 13 from W first Marriage
