We can't lose what we don't have. You are afraid of losing him to OW, but what place do you hold right now? Which woman is #1 in his life? When you stop being afraid, then you will see a big difference. Go back and read that post you wrote before this one and see how many times you referred to an act of fear.
He is not afraid of losing you, apparently, b/c you are showing him that you are willing to play second fiddle to OW. You are willing to eat what few crumbs that he throws your way. You can't feel very good about yourself living like that. I hope you will go on-line and read what a healthy self-esteem looks like.
As long as my h looked the other way, I continued my EA. Your H will continue what he is doing as long as you are willing to accept a third party in this M.
Why are you afraid to reject his affection? Will he get mean and hurt you.....or are you thinking he'll never give you another kiss? How do you mean that you're afraid?
You are too valuable to be put in a position as this. If it were me, I would have to tell him that as long as OW is in the picture, he need not come around trying to see me. But, that's just me. I would not take that kind of disrespect. You know what you are willing to do and what you aren't.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
