Barb, My H used exactly the same words. It is part and parcel of the MLC. When I would snoop on his texts, he asked me why did I want to hurt myself by doing that. He did not see it as him doing somethig wrong. He said that all he wanted actually was freedom to do anything he wanted to do, leave when he wanted, be with whoever he felt like, etc. They lose sight/and or hate everything they ever had before - committment, responsibility, values, morals...
We become their emotional shackle. they are sick of their life and do the opposite. In a sense they do a 180. It is when I realized that the same situation is repeated over and over again in the threads of this post that I realized that the experience that others have in this board is invaluable, because just as our H's in MLC react in the same ways, things the LBS does will make them react in the same way too.
It depends upon you. It is your CHOICE.
If you want him to stay, it might not be too late. Fake it and suddenly be cheerful,do not talk R, only talk about good stuff. Do not ask about his choices, do not bring up his leaving. Its a week to go, just observe what happens. For me I saw changes in a few days.
Its seems like your choice though is to hurry it up and get out of the way. Again, it might be a better choice for you. Then you coulod do LRT (easier when not home). for me, I do semi-LRT - GAL, 180's but cannot do NC as we live together.
That way, you don't get hurt with the "flying objects". For me though, it was a way of letting him have his cake and eat it too. It meant that he had his freedom without guilt.
Good luck, please stay calm, and take care. Hope 2011 will bring a better sitch for you.
Hugs,
Angel
Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18 Bomb: 6/26/10 EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ??? 11/5/11 Retrouvaille Finally piecing.... Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go
