They do get to hate what they do. When my H says he hates his life I know he hates what he did to it. he once said before that it was him, not me.

That is why when we act nice to them it throws them off, they have more reason not to hate us and cannot put the blame on us, and so they hate themselves more.

But hopefully, that hating themselves makes them realize that they have to change, and that it is in their power.

Wearing your ring shows her and your kids that you are want the M, not D, and that is what you want them to think, right?

Me:49 H:45 D:12 M:14 T:18
Bomb: 6/26/10
EA: 9/3/10, fizzled out slowly, now ???
11/5/11 Retrouvaille
Finally piecing....
Its peaceful at last, but we got a looong way to go