Sweetheart, it's been six years. He still needs time to make a decision? Yes or no. In or out. If he wants this marriage he will do what he needs to do to stay in. Otherwise he is out.
Lotus, I have to tell you that I read your words last night before I spoke to my husband and you really helped me find clarity.
Every one of you that has posted to me has been a tremendous source of help.
I realize I may not have been as strong as I should have (by forcing him to leave last night) but I am confident that I can make that choice if any of my boundaries are crossed. A deal-breaker is a deal-breaker and he now knows what my deal-breakers are.
M: 37 H: 36 Married: Aug 13, 2004 Decision to Divorce: July 20, 2008 Reconciled: September 2008 Current: Ambivalence
