I fully understand your not wanting anything from him that is not freely given. I reached that point, too. But the thing is, when I got to that point, he was no longer in the house with me and we were no longer acting as a couple. At that point, I refused to ask for anything that the man who loves and wants me should automatically give.
But after the infidelity, I put my foot down. Me or her. No contact with her at all. Ever. And if you see her across a crowded room, driving down the street, wherever, I want you to immediately call me and tell me. Those were my conditions of me remaining in a relationship with him. This is a boundary that you need to establish IF you are going to continue to live with him and work on your M even the slightest bit.
Now, if you are wanting to separate or get space, I could understand you not making demands.
Me: 33, H: 32 M: 12 years T: 13 years No kids D-Day: 7/2009 Separated: 10/12/10 Future Unknown GITS
"There's a fire starting in my heart, reaching a fever pitch and it's bringing me out the dark." - Adele
