Yes, that's the weird thing about online dating - you're often juggling multiple potential dates. I'm not good at it - I tend to get interested in one person at a time. But I can see that is part of why I'm still dateless 6 months later! Too much time wasted on one potential date at a time who didn't pan out, when I should have still been putting the effort into meeting more people online.
I'm all for getting the quick coffee date out of the way first, you can usually tell right away if you're interested or not. My goal is to start going on more of those. It is a numbers game I think.
(((((Ellie))))) It is a numbers game, for sure. It makes sense. Back in the day you knew dozens of guys that were potential dates just in everyday life. And yet you would only actually date a small number of them, but you could figure out which ones, since you saw them and even talked to then in non-date situations. But with on-line dating, you date before you really know much of anything. It seems to me you could meet five, ten, maybe more, before you even find one you want to date. And if we try to do that serially (and I am like you, I really don't like the juggling) it is going to take forever!
I do agree, I can almost always tell in the first few minutes if there is mutual interest.
I've had it go both ways - good chemistry via chat, none when we met (on my end). Then there's the famous good chemistry on chat - fell into bed almost immediately when we met and dated for a year.
But look at it as, either way it goes, you've probably met a friend.
