I think a man who is in MLC, who used to deeply love thier wife, doesn't ever want to totally let go. They want thier harlot who makes them feel good BUT they also want thier wife at home pinning away for them. If you are not pinning away anymore then they don't have everything that is making them happy at this moment of craziness that they are in.
Find your own life where your every emotion is not dictated by his actions. (by the way, I have major issues following my own advice! :-)
I think my H realized just recently that I don't care anymore. That I could easily go to a lawyer and file for a divorce. He knows that I still love him, but that I am ready to be on my own. This shook him up because he could SEE that I meant it. There were no tears, no emotion in my voice or eyes. Just done. I wasn't at home pinning away anymore and this was a big reality check for him. Does it mean that we will get back together? Time will tell, but I know I can move on and it makes me feel confident that I am in control of myself and he is not in control of my emotions anymore.
TAMF m:41 xh:41 T: 20 M: 15 D: 16 D: 14 Bomb dropped: 7/3/10 separated: 7/15/10 H moved in to new apt. with OW: 7/1/11 divorced: 8/26/12
