sue, please read my post in OTHER TOPICS FORUM, and reply when you have a chance. i agree with how the family system can factor in to detachment, but i continue to question what is/are the core reasons for what she has continued to say and do that could destroy our marriage. i feel like it has now effected me because of my feelings that i still have a life and my kids will always be my kids, but to end it when i know that it is senseless because of what has taken place! i constantly worry about her and feel sorry for the experiences she had as a child and what we must do to get her help.i keep teling myself that i can't leave because of this, but at the same time my 3 yr old son has started to get effected intially by her actions, and i don't want this to continue. please reply!!
