Trying to move forward....

[Augtan]

Wow!! Kissak I know exactly how you feel. And, Eric is sooo right about the lying thing!! I constantly struggle with his need to lie to me STILL!! I beg my XH to tell me the truth and I know he is still just lying to me! He doesn't know what the truth is and that makes me nuts at times...not as much anymore forsure, but I still get upset by it.

I keep thinking this time he is going to tell the truth, and now he has D18 lying all the time too, that makes me even more mad, the fact my kids are learning that doing this crap to people such as, lying, cheating, all of it is A-OKAY!! I tell them its not, but leading by example is much better and I do the right example and he does the wrong one...it is so frusterating.

He could careless if you like the OW or not!! I have spent way too much time trying to convince my XH what the first OW was and he found out himself, then I didn't learn a thing... and have spent too much time convincing him about second OW...they don't care what they are, what they have done, who they hurt, if they care about their own kids or not (both my XH's OW's lost or gave up custody of their own kids!!), NOTHING..the OW is someone who is just as bad or worse then they are cause anything above that would make them feel bad, the OW is someone who takes the pain away for the minute, and isn't to blame for everything wrong in their life like you are, the OW is just to fill a void...that is it!! So, don't waste precious time on her, don't make my mistake, cause no matter what you say or do, the OW has an excuse for all she is and all she has done just like your H has, they are not quality people and they are not worthy of you spending a minute thinking about them...you know all this, but it never hurts to read it again!!

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