XH is off his pedestal and I'm moving forward

[MHL]

.) We talked a little bit about this and then I said to XH (OK Missher, warm up your 2 x 4.........I couldn't help myself) "You are so good to BMF. I have wondered in the past what has BMF ever really done for you other than loan you his truck from time to time? Has he really returned your generosity?"

Believe it or not there are no 2x4's from me on this.....

You did not bring up BMF......you were actively listening.

You did not give your opinion of BMF......well maybe you did a little.....for that you will get a little finger flick on the forehead from me. hahahahaha.

he couldn't get enough of your company....hence the drinks (that's huge)....you are his safe harbor...no conflict, just comfort. Stay on this path...slow and steady

Mila hit the nail on the head here!!! He is confiding in you and you have created a safe zone for him to share his feelings....you are establishing yourself as his "best friend"....Congrats!!!!

However, this is good up until a point......right???

You do not want to get stuck in the "friend" zone....not even the best friend zone. Ever see "My best friend's wedding" with Julia Roberts???? Do you want to be Julia Robert's here????

Oh and while we are on the topic of movies.......GAG and ladies....the idea of a movie.....well it S U C K S..(there I swung something and I hit everyone).

You want the sparks to fly, you want the magic to happen, you want romance, you want advanced TT lessons .

Let me ask you this....when is the last time you went to a movie with a man and you could not wait until the movie was over to go home and make mad passionate love to him.......

ahhhhh.....like never.....

Look you go to a movie sit down, un-plug your mind, and get entertained by the movie for 2 hours.....there is no interaction, no knowing glances, no flirting.....yeah, yeah I know you can "do things" in the movie theatre.....but you are not there yet, that will come later.

Movies are "friend" things to do, you want to go to the movies and snuggle up next to him while you 2 enjoy the movie, that will come in time.

You are looking for a non-pursuing way to ask him to spend time with you.....right??? Can't be done, unless you are going to do it as a friend......I'll ask again.....DO YOU WANT TO BE HIS FRIEND?????

NO you don't......

YOU WANT TO BE HIS LOVER.......right????

You need to do things with Mr. GAG where you guys interact and talk and touch and look and smell and all those things that create that magic moment when the fireworks go off!!!

Don't get me wrong here....you are definitely on the right track and you want to spend more time with him but make sure it is the right kind of time for what it is you want.

Let me give you an example, and a little peek into my world .

I have been on a lot of dates in the last couple of months and lately I have seen one lady now about 3 or 4 times and I really like her and I want to see her more but it is a little difficult because she is about 1 hour away. Well she was coming close to where I live 2 nights ago and I was available but she was going to meet "friends" and catch up with her friends....I could have gone and mind you, I REALLY wanted to see her but I did not because that was not the type of interaction I wanted with her, which was a "friend" interaction.

I want a romantic interaction with her.....the friend thing will come later after I establish the romantic interaction with her. She has a lot of guy "friends" that she has dated and is now "friends" with......they fell into the trap of spending anytime they could with her even if it was "friend" time. I do not want to be her friend......yet.

It could be summed up like this.......

I will be your friend in a ROMANTIC relationship....BUT....I am not going to SETTLE for a friendship in lieu of ROMANTIC relationship, that is not what I want.

We are so damn scared to tell other human beings in this world (especially the ones closest to us) that WE have wants and needs and that they can fulfill those wants and needs. We operate out of fear of rejection, embarrassment....fear of looking weak or inferior.

We are trained as children to not cry, suck it up, act like a grown up......basically we are taught to push down our feelings so far that we get all effed up inside and have no hope of communicating honestly with other people in this world.....

because we are AFRAID.

The time will come soon GAG where you are going to step out and let Mr. GAG know, "Hey, I want to be more than friends with you".....

Personally I think.......

ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS.......

Last night the timing was not right.....good move!!!!!

How about next time you guys go for drinks at your house??????

BTW.....HAPPY LITTLE FRIDAY !!!!!!!!!!!!

Cheers