Just some more background so you can maybe give me some help.
I truly love my wife. She has been in IC for 5-6 months. I haven't seen much improvement and she says therapist wants to take her deeper but that is not her and seems to fight it.
I remain fairly calm in this process due to a 2 1/2 yr MLC myself. Lasted from 40 til 40 1/2 and was an extremely depressing but rewarding time for me. I have great empathy for my wife because I know the feeling of being an Alien.
She does know I do not want this but I don't dwell on that. I try to listen and validate. She is adament about moving on. When we do have discussions whcih there havent been to many in the last 6 months because I have basically gone dim to keep out of her way. The kids know too because she snaps at them and they don't really care for her.
