Sandi,
Some of my post from yesterday didn't show up but here are here feelings as it stands now:

doesn't want to be responsible for me.(says thats how she feels)
wants freedom, independence(shes she never had it)
we have grown apart
married to young

I have listened to her issues. I see no way other than letting her go find what she needs to. This is not easy for me because I don't want this, but you can't wave a magic wand and they feel what you want them to feel.