If I stay, she starts the divorce. If I go, she doesn't. I buy myself time to turn thnigs around. If not, we still divorce. I get time, which gives me hope. I will have the ability to see my kids a lot. I am renting a room from a flight attendant who is gone about 1/2 the time. I get my house every other weekend and possibly more while my wife leaves. I can move back in if ultimately I don't see a benefit of being gone, but then she starts the D process.

I am not worried about abandonment issues. We will go through a
mediator for the D if it ultimately comes to that. She is not vindictive and will not try and pull any kind of bulls**t.

I don't really know what else to do. I was not being successful DBing in the current sitch, I had to change things up and hope for a better outcome. Ultimately, I have a huge uphill battle any way I look at it. Again, I think I bought myself some time. Maybe I'm naive, but I didn't see staying here as gaining any positive ground.


M42
W38
D5D7
M8
Living as 'roomates' since 9-12-10
Moved out 1-7-11
FIL threatened to kill me 1-20-11