Dennis, I dont know what to tell you! that seems impossible dosnt it. but i am a firm believer in whatever is meant to be will be! (in the end) the OM in my situation... he and his wife were already in the process of D she had 2 affairs with 2 of his friends! during their seperation and the divorce procedings she had gotten a new boyfriend she was crazy about and he ended up dating a woman he was pretty interested in. all kinds of things happened that threw those two back together kicking and screaming! and now they are both exstatically happy and have never felt better together or ever felt they knew each other better.
I dont have all the answers and I can only speculate on human behaviors but the truth is I believe what ever is meant to be will prevail. I am extremely content at this moment that I have made the right decisions for myself to take me where I am suposed to go in life and I really dont think thats with my H but who knows. At this point it will take a miracle to keep me with him though!
I wish you the best!
Sue ****************
Hi all, rather then add another post I decided to just throw an update to the end of my last post on this thread. Simply because I remember thinking at that point in time my marriage was definitly over and I had tried for all I was worth and then some a 1000 times more. I mean this marriage under went an autopsy and was already embalmed (sp?) I havent looked back at this thread or the board in months, until recently, so I missed these later posts. It struck me funny as I read my above words about how at this point it would take a miracle to keep me with my H. A miracle was what I got . My son. I never thought I would have one. But now I have a beautiful 3 1/2 month old boy. I was on birth control when I conceived him and it was just two months before I was going to have my tubes tied. At first I was so scared. I had given up on my H ever getting his act together. I thought the Big Guy had totally overestimated me this time. With the destruction of my marriage, I didnt know how on earth I was going to manage being a single mother of 3 children and a baby. But you know what? HE knew what he was doing. during my pregnancy everything changed. My H and I actually became friends again. This precious little guy brought so much peace into our home. My H on his own without any pushing or mention from me got help for his drinking. Not because he had to but because he wanted to. For himself and his son. Our girls are very happy, our family is very happy. Its a good place to be. I cant thank God enough for the miracle. I have let go of the past and truly forgiven my H for the abuse.
I wish you all the best. keep the faith. Sue
If you are having trouble with detachment, theres a thread that I loved that helps, called Words of Wisdom from daily readings http://66.111.66.234/cgi-bin/ultimatebb.cgi?ubb=get_topic&f=24&t=000253. Its mostly spiritual readings. They helped me to find peace through some rough times. I hope they will help you too.
I havent looked back at this thread or the board in months, until recently, so I missed these later posts. It struck me funny as I read my above words about how at this point it would take a miracle to keep me with my H. A miracle was what I got 
. My son. I never thought I would have one. But now I have a beautiful 3 1/2 month old boy. I was on birth control when I conceived him and it was just two months before I was going to have my tubes tied. At first I was so scared. I had given up on my H ever getting his act together. I thought the Big Guy had totally overestimated me this time. With the destruction of my marriage, I didnt know how on earth I was going to manage being a single mother of 3 children and a baby. But you know what? HE knew what he was doing. during my pregnancy everything changed. My H and I actually became friends again. This precious little guy brought so much peace into our home. My H on his own without any pushing or mention from me got help for his drinking. Not because he had to but because he wanted to. For himself and his son. Our girls are very happy, our family is very happy. Its a good place to be. I cant thank God enough for the miracle. I have let go of the past and truly forgiven my H for the abuse. 
